Subtle art of not giving a Fuck.

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 Hey guys this blog is going to be a book  summary or some might take it as lessons from book, based on your perspective. Well perspective does play a big role in our lives. Basically, everything depends on how we see things or how we react to the situations that arise in our day to day life. There's a really good book about this topic. Subtle art of not giving a Fuck by Mark Manson. So today I am going to discuss about the book itself. 

Introduction - 

The book was written by Mark Manson in order to give ways about living a good life to people. The author has described about the struggles that come in our way and how they are good for us and how our reaction to them means a lot. The book also explains to care about the things on which we really have control over and don't spend time on the things on which we don't have control over. So detailed summary is as follows - 


1. Grass is greener on the other side - 

We are wired to be dissatisfied with what we have and always expect to have what others are having despite no guarantee of being satisfied after we get that thing. This constant dissatisfaction is keeping us from building and conquering things we are meant to be. Not seeing what others are doing or having and focusing on oneself is the best and simplest way to achieve happiness. Seeing what others are having makes us feel insecure being what we have is better than what others have and we should not care about what is better between the two in the first place. What is good for others might not be good for us. This forces us to make wrong purchases from time to time affecting our pockets as well. 


2. Problems - 

The author says that real happiness comes from solving the problems that come our way and not from wishing that no problem arise in our path. To be happy we need something to solve, therefore happiness is an action or rather form of action. Avoiding the problems will only make you feel miserable. Also having problems and not solving them makes you miserable too, there's only one way and it is to solve the problems that arise. 


3. EMOTIONS - 

Now there's a reason why I have written it in bold, emotions or dealing with emotions is very delicate and important part of our lives. We tend to give more importance to emotions like it's everything in our life. They are not, they are just a part of our life. Just because something feels good doesn't mean that it is good or just because something is wrong mean it is wrong or bad. Emotions are just the suggestions that our neurobiology gives us not commands. We shouldn't trust them very much. We always should question them and come to a logical conclusion. Reasoning should be given more importance nd we should become reasonable. 


4. Certainty - 

Certainty is the enemy of growth, nothing is certain until it has already happened and it still can be debatable after it has happened as we can't see the long term. As something wrong happening in short term can result to something great in the long term. Therefore, instead of starving for certainty we should have an habit to question our beliefs and feelings. Instead of looking for being right all the time we should be looking for how we're wrong all the time because we are, well most of the times and being wrong opens the possibility to change for good and better. And growth doesn't mean as author said and i quote "splashing dog piss on your face to look young again" it means to not think mediocre. 


5. Seeking Ultimate Right - 

We shouldn't seek the ultimate right of ourselves every time, we should go for wrong today to little less wrong tomorrow. When viewed from this perspective personal growth can be more scientific. Our actions are just the experiments through the patterns of data we have. There is not 'perfect' ideology, no one is right every time and one should not thrive to be. Because one cannot be right every time. We are wrong most of the time because we try to be right, we should focus on being les wrong everyday by being logical and not giving the power to control our brains to emotions only. And should always understand that "correct" is different for person to person. 


It's a very good book to read. One should really have a read, this is like tip of the iceberg of this book as even i don't remember every sentence and chapter (because i read it long time ago). Anyways, this was an effort of giving a glimpse of this great book, hope you liked it and will take time to read it. 


Thank You,

Yash. 










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