Take no Offense, People.

Would you feel frustrated if someone yelled at you for something that you haven't done? or Tell me this Would you feel frustrated if you deserved a slap (metaphorically) but someone knocked you across the room? If your answer is yes and trust me 99% of the people's answer generally is (me included). Now, why does this happen? It's because we were not treated in the way we thought we will. We thought the world should treat us nicely because we are nice to everyone. Now, that might not be the case. I know karma is a real thing but we pretty much get challenging situations with someone's behavior from time to time. So, what to do in situations like this? Should we not believe in Karma and be an asshole to everyone because you know, they are the same way as us? No. There's this quote by one of the great authors, named Mark Manson - "If you expect honesty and kindness from someone to whom you are kind then you're not kind, you're just doing a transaction and it doesn't normally go the way you want it to be." The solution to our problem here has nothing to do with our behavior towards them but something to do with the reaction that we give or the thought we develop in our brain about them being an asshole. The root cause of the problem here is we take each and everything told to us by anyone way too personally, be it the taunt or admiration. Another quote, by a great entrepreneur named Gary Vee which I would like to put, is "The ability to remain dead in the noise of cheering or the arrows of discouragement is priceless." 

Now, we take things personally has only one reason and that is because we feel attacked and think our PRECIOUS goodwill is in danger. That is very natural and human nature to feel offended by something that was told to us. But why don't we give it a moment's thought about why that thing was said to us? Why do we always give an immediate response? We are blessed with an invaluable asset that can do wonders if put to the right use and we don't even use it to think in the right manner. Aren't we doing something wrong? Now, let's discuss the points about what can be done here.

First of all, realize that in 90% of cases, someone's rudeness towards you has nothing to do with you. It's just the reflection of their issues. We all have yelled at someone without any reason many times because we were facing some challenges in our personal life. So, when someone is rude or angry towards you, take time and think is he really angry with me or just the explosion of suppressed anger? If the conclusion is the second point and in most cases it is, let it go. Do not point it out and taunt that person about you being right, that will just increase the problem because now you didn't only increase his/her anger you also attacked his/her ego and that does not end well. 

Further, if someone has criticized the work that you completed with your utmost hard work and dedication do not get upset or start to aggressively defend yourself. Take a moment to think about how you can constructively take criticism and learn and if you have really done it perfectly and still were criticized or not appreciated (which happens almost every time in corporates), let it go because you have already impressed the most important person in your life and that's yourself. Don't go looking around the world for appreciation because you'll hardly receive any. 

Now, many times we feel like our reputation is in danger because someone is spreading out the bad word about us for the work that we haven't done. This also happens a lot. What do we do in a situation like this? Nothing. If you've honestly built a good reputation among your workplace and friends there won't be any problem at all. As Ryan Holiday, a great author about Stoic Philosophy says "if your reputation couldn't handle a few blows, it wasn't worth it in the first place." Don't be depressed by this you might be on your way up to the reputation-building ladder, be honest and go on. You'll be fine. Because your worth depends on what you truly think of yourself rather than what the world thinks of you. 

Let's consider another scenario, you've completed some tasks working very hard and with full dedication, and after completion, your boss found a couple of mistakes and criticized you despite the hard work. What will you do in such a situation? Be depressed? Be angry at life for not being good? Stop doing work with dedication? No. You take a moment to yourself and realize that you're a human and that humans tend to make mistakes despite working hard on something. It is 100% natural. Understand this and you'll be fine. 

Another important thing that I'd like to add for young people, we get angry whenever our parents tell us not to do something or get angry at us when it's not our fault, don't we? Now, take a moment here first and realize your parents, your mom and dad are a HUMAN first and then your parent. So, every natural emotion such as anger, frustration, etc that you can feel, they can feel as well. So, get it through your head that your parents can get angry at you without any reason because of some stuff they are facing in their professional life, you do it too and they can do it too sometimes as they are only humans. They can also be wrong from time to time and can make mistakes. Do not think that they don't love you or are not letting you do things because they enjoy doing that, I'm sure they've got their reasons. 

(And for all the relatives and friends reading this - I am not writing this paragraph on parents because I'm facing something like this, make this a point, lol.) 

That would be it.

Thank you for reading it,

Yash.